I have been getting bombarded recently with a lot of mom & wife talk about how women are "losing" themselves in their husband's lives or careers...or in the raising of their children.
::sigh:: Where to start with this?? I am me. Whether I am changing diapers, reading "Green Eggs and Ham", or making plans to move a household a thousand miles away. I am still me. Maybe I don't get to spend as much time on my hobbies as I'd like...but I think that's just a part of growing up. Someone who chooses a career over spouse & kids might make the same sacrifice, but no one dare says she has "lost" herself. She's empowered and her own woman...even if someone else is making up her schedule and determining what she does and when in her job. She might report to 40 different managers, but she is strong and motivated, not under the thumb of corporate America. ...According to those who think wives and mothers are "lost".
Which is fine...do whatever you want. Like Barbie says, "Be who you want to be." If that "be" is a wife, a mother, a sister, an aunt, a lawyer, a photographer, a manicurist, or the chick who scrapes the gum from under the table at the mall food court...BE IT. And be it WELL! Working full time, part time, or as a mother (who might also be working full time or part time), means you will probably have to give up a few hobbies...but if you like what you're doing, then do it full tilt. Hobbies aren't who you are. You are you...in every way. :)
And apparently I am a little goofy. Go figure.